Both have incredible attributes! I'm an advocate of both and have been involved in both for many years. Therapy deals largely with past trauma and is seen as medical support for mental health issues. Coaching is present and future-oriented. The way I approach coaching can't ignore the past and will explore what is helpful, however the goal is to develop healthy patterns and habits that support you moving forward. It's is a process of re-patterning that will help you get where you want to go. The coaching process also allows us to have a different relationship than with a therapist. I'm able to support you in times outside of our sessions through accountability texts, retreats, and a more personal dynamic.

In my experience, after a few sessions you'll "feel" much better, which is great. Most of life's circumstances can be processed and resolved in a relatively short period; however, we haven't ingrained new patterns and habits to sustain a new way of living yet—which means there's nothing in place to support you the next time something difficult happens. I've seen many clients go through the cycle of booking a few sessions to fix a specific problem, then cancel for two months before coming back with a new issue and repeating the same cycle over and over without experiencing any lasting, sustainable change. This never allows the space for new perspectives to take root, but instead slaps a bandaid on the issue of the day. My goal is to support you as you build up a strong base for knowing what you want, what you value, and how to meet life's challenges, feeling equipped to navigate life's circumstances and your personal relationships on your own. The best way to find that movement is to commit and dig in to do the work now, so you'll feel capable later.

NO! Having the awareness that you need support says so much about what's "right" with you. We all need support, and there's deep wisdom in knowing how to reach out to find that support when you need it most. I'm a big believer that each individual is the expert in their own life. That said, there are things that we can't see on our own where support and guidance is helpful. This is a human experience that we all have.

Because as much as you want to help, support, and (dare I say) change him—that's simply not your role. As I'm sure you've already experienced, it creates more friction and often makes things worse. He must strike his own path forward. The maturation process is natural and necessary and it must happen, in some ways, apart from you.

This is a common question I've received, and is often the greatest fear many loved ones have in recommending coaching for their son, boyfriend, brother, or husband. That said, in my experience, it takes one or two sessions to get to the commitment. One reason for this is I am very clear that my intention in our time together is to help. I'm not here on behalf of you (the mom, sister, girlfriend, etc.) but simply in support of him. Yes I need you to get him in the door, but after that it's his decision to commit to his own growth and desire a better life for himself. It's a beautiful process to witness.

Let's talk! My life's work is to support men. I do have sliding support scales for those who need it. Nothing will offend or hurt my feelings. Just ask and we can settle on a price that makes sense for us both.  I'll be honest, I ask the same from you!